Roar louder than your demons

Therapy is equivalent to a mental health gym membership – sure, you can sign up and show up, but if you’re not willing to put in the hard work, you won’t see any results.

Let’s be honest. No one wants to pay a monthly fee to sit on the couch and complain about their problems without doing anything about them.

So, what exactly does doing the hard work in therapy look like? For starters, it means being honest with yourself and your therapist. I know. Brushing things under the rug and pretending everything is fine is much easier. But trust me, your therapist is not a mind reader. They can’t help you if you’re dishonest about what’s happening.

Doing the hard work also means facing your fears and confronting your demons. It means digging deep and getting to the root of your issues, even if it’s uncomfortable or painful. It means challenging your negative thought patterns and beliefs and working to change them. It means taking responsibility for your actions and making changes where necessary.

But here’s the thing – doing the hard work in therapy is not always easy. In fact, it can be downright challenging and exhausting at times. It requires a lot of self-reflection, introspection, and self-awareness. It means stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things. It means being vulnerable and open to change.

But let me tell you, the hard work is worth it. Because when you put in the effort and really commit to therapy, you’ll start to see positive changes in your life. You’ll start to feel more in control of your emotions and behaviors. You’ll start to develop healthier coping mechanisms and strategies for dealing with stress and anxiety. You’ll start to build stronger relationships with others and with yourself.

So, the next time you find yourself in therapy and feeling like it’s an endless run on the treadmill, remember that doing the hard work is essential for growth and healing. Embrace the discomfort, push yourself outside your comfort zone, and trust the process. Ultimately, all your hard work will pay off, and you’ll be on your way to a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling life.

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In a world that often values toughness and resilience above all else, it can be easy to feel like being fragile is a weakness. We are told to toughen up, to put on a brave face, and never to show any signs of vulnerability. But the truth is, being fragile and robust simultaneously is possible. It is a powerful combination that can lead to incredible growth and resilience.

Being fragile means being sensitive, delicate, and easily broken. It means feeling deeply, caring intensely, and being affected by the world around us. It means being open to the pain and suffering of others and being willing to let our own emotions show. It means being human.

At the same time, being assertive means being resilient, determined, and unwavering in adversity. It means having the courage to stand up for what is right, to face our fears head-on, and to keep moving forward even when the odds are stacked against us. It means being a warrior.

So, how can we be both fragile and robust simultaneously? It starts with embracing our vulnerabilities and recognizing that they are not weaknesses but sources of strength. When we feel deeply and are affected by the world around us, we become more empathetic, compassionate, and connected to those around us. Our fragility becomes a source of power, not a liability.

At the same time, when we tap into our inner strength and resilience, we can face challenges head-on and emerge stronger on the other side. We learn to trust in our abilities, to believe in ourselves, and never to give up, no matter how difficult the road may be. Our strength becomes a beacon of hope, guiding us through even the darkest times.

Being fragile and robust simultaneously is not about being perfect or invincible. It is about being honest, authentic, and genuine to ourselves. It is about embracing our vulnerabilities and using them as a power source. It is about tapping into our inner strength and resilience and using it to overcome any obstacles that come our way.

Let us embrace our fragility and strength, for they are two sides of the same coin. Let us allow ourselves to feel deeply, to care intensely, and to be affected by the world around us. Let us stand tall in the face of adversity, to keep moving forward, and to never give up. Let us be fragile and robust simultaneously, for in that delicate balance lies our true power.

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Is devotion unconditional love?

Have you ever truly been in love with another soul that made your heart stop?

The very thought of it brings warmth to one’s heart and a smile to one’s face. But amidst the chaotic world we live in, where love seems conditional and constantly tested, is it possible to love unconditionally?

I firmly believe that it is, and I urge you to consider why embracing unconditional love is not just a choice but a necessity.

It is essential to understand what unconditional love truly means. It is a love that knows no boundaries, limitations, or expectations. It is a love not based on what someone can give or do for us but simply on who they are.

It is a love that remains unwavering, even when the one we love falls short or makes mistakes.

Now, you may be thinking, how is loving someone unconditionally practical in our day-to-day lives?

The truth is, it may not be easy, but it is worth it.

Unconditional love can transform relationships, heal wounds, and bring immense joy and fulfillment to both the giver and receiver. When we love someone without conditions, we free ourselves from constantly expecting something in return. We love for the sake of love, which is a liberating feeling.

Unconditional love teaches us to embrace imperfections and flaws. In a world where perfection is constantly glorified, unconditional love reminds us that our imperfections make us unique and lovable.

By loving someone unconditionally, we accept them for who they are and not for who we want them to be. It allows us to see people beyond their mistakes and shortcomings and instead focus on their strengths and genuine goodness.

But let’s not forget the most fundamental reason unconditional love is crucial – it promotes empathy and compassion.

When we love without conditions, we put ourselves in someone else’s shoes and try to understand their perspective. We become more forgiving, patient, and understanding towards others.

In a time where the world desperately needs more empathy and kindness, unconditional love is a powerful tool in making this a reality.

Now, I am not saying that unconditional love means tolerating toxic behavior or staying in unhealthy relationships.

It simply means choosing to love someone, flaws and all, and setting healthy boundaries for ourselves.

It also means extending the same level of compassion and empathy to ourselves, as we often forget to love ourselves unconditionally.

Unconditional love may seem like a romanticized notion, but it is a concept that can change our world for the better. It starts with everyone consciously choosing love without conditions – in our relationships, our communities, and towards ourselves.

So, I urge you to embrace unconditional love and see the magic it can bring into your life and the lives of those around you.

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Hey there, fellow independent souls! I want to take some time to talk about a concept that may resonate with many of you – hyper-independence.

As humans, we are naturally inclined to strive for independence, self-reliance, and taking care of ourselves. However, have you ever taken it to the extreme? This is where hyper-independence comes into play.

What is hyper-independence? It occurs when we take our independence to the extreme, almost becoming obsessed with it. We push ourselves to do everything on our own, to the extent that we may even reject help or support from others. Does this sound familiar? Let’s explore why this may not be a positive mindset after all.

First off, being independent is an excellent quality to have. It means we can make our own decisions, care for ourselves, and not rely on others for our well-being. However, when we become hyper-independent, we start to isolate ourselves from others and reject any form of assistance. This can lead to loneliness and burnout as we carry the weight of everything on our shoulders.

Not only that, but hyper-independence can also hinder our personal growth. When we reject help or support from others, we miss opportunities to learn from different perspectives and experiences. We limit ourselves to only our knowledge and abilities, which may not be enough to reach our full potential.

Furthermore, constantly striving for extreme independence can also result in a fear of vulnerability. When accustomed to self-sufficiency, we may be reluctant to lower our defenses and seek assistance when necessary. This fear of vulnerability can impede our ability to establish profound and meaningful connections with others, hurting our emotional well-being.

Now, this is not to say that being independent is a bad thing. It’s essential to have a healthy level of independence to care for ourselves and know when to ask for help.

One method is to cultivate self-awareness. Take a step back and reflect on your actions and thought patterns.

Are you consistently turning down help or support from others?

Do you feel like you have to handle everything by yourself?

Now, be honest; there is no judgment.

We all have reasons behind our behavior. Once you recognize these patterns, it becomes easier to make an effort to modify them consciously. This takes time. The Eiffel Tower wasn’t built in a day, so give yourself some grace. Taking the time to get to the root cause and deciding to change shows personal growth.

Start small.

Instead of attempting to handle everything yourself, begin by seeking help with a small task. This can help boost your confidence in seeking assistance and overcome the fear of vulnerability.

It is also essential to have a supportive network around you. Surround yourself with people who genuinely care for your well-being. They can offer different perspectives and support you need when you feel overwhelmed or burnt out.

Independence is an excellent quality, but it can negatively affect our emotional well-being and personal growth when taken to the extreme. It’s important to remember that asking for help or support from others is okay.

Let’s work on breaking out of the hyper-independent mindset and learning to strike a healthy balance because we all need some help from our friends.

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