Roar louder than your demons

To The Mom Of Boys

March 20th, 2024
Photo Credit: LHJ

From a dear friend:

As a mom of rambunctious boys, I have learned a thing or two about the wild and wonderful world of raising little men. Here are some of the critical lessons I’ve picked up along the way:

1. Boys have endless energy: Seriously, where do they get it all? From the moment they wake up until they finally crash into bed at night, my boys are like little tornadoes of activity. I’ve learned that keeping them entertained and engaged is critical to avoiding significant disasters (aka furniture used as jungle gyms or things exploding in the bathtub).

2. Everything is a competition: EVERYTHING. Whether it’s who can eat their dinner the fastest or who can jump the highest off the couch, boys seem to turn everything into a friendly competition. I’ve learned to embrace the competitive spirit and use it as motivation for getting things done (like cleaning up their toys in record time).

3. Roughhousing is their love language: Boys show their affection by wrestling, tackling, and generally roughhousing with each other. At first, I was a bit taken aback by this behavior, but I’ve come to realize that it’s just their way of bonding and showing affection. Plus, it’s a great way to burn off some of that endless energy.

4. Boys are fearless: Whether climbing to the top of the tallest tree in the backyard or attempting to ride their bikes down the steepest hill, boys have a daring spirit that terrifies and impresses me. I’ve learned to balance letting them explore and keeping them safe, even if it means constantly reminding them to wear helmets.

5. They have a unique sense of humor: From fart jokes to silly pranks, boys definitely have a unique sense of humor that never fails to make me laugh. I’ve learned to appreciate their quirky jokes and even join in on the fun (as long as it’s not too gross).

Being a mom of boys has taught me to embrace the chaos, appreciate the humor, and cherish the special bond that comes with raising little men. It’s a wild ride, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Savor the little moments; enjoy the smiles, giggles, and antics. They are only little for a little bit of time.

-🦩
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Trust the Journey

March 19th, 2024
In life’s ever-changing flow,
Sometimes we must learn to let go. Letting go gracefully, with quiet grace, embracing change, and finding a new space.

Like leaves drifting from a tree,
we release what no longer serves us and set it free.

With hearts wide open, we surrender to the beauty of what’s yet to render.

Unburdened by the weight of yesterday, we step into the unknown, come what may,
with faith and trust as the journey unfolds, we let go gracefully, our hearts consoled.

So let go of what holds you back,
Embrace the future, and stay on track. We find a newfound sense of glee in the art of releasing gracefully.

-🦩
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RAISING CONFIDENT AND RESILIENT KIDS

March 17th, 2024
Photo Credit: LHJ

Raising confident and resilient kids is no easy task, but it can be done with a little bit of humor and a lot of patience. As parents, we want to see our children grow up strong, self-assured individuals who can handle whatever life throws their way.

So, how exactly do we foster these qualities in our little ones?

First and foremost, it’s essential to let your kids know that it’s okay to fail. Failure is often a necessary stepping stone to any meaningful success. By encouraging your children to try new things, even if they might fail immediately, they will learn how to be resilient. Teach them that setbacks are just temporary roadblocks, not dead ends. And hey, if all else fails, remind them that at least they’re not the ones who invented the pet rock.

Next, instill in your children a sense of self-worth. Please help them to recognize their strengths and talents and encourage them to pursue their passions. Remind them they are unique and special, like a unicorn riding a skateboard. And hey, if they ever doubt themselves, remind them they’re the reason you have gray hair.

Another critical aspect of raising confident and resilient kids is teaching them adaptability. Life is full of unexpected twists and turns, so children must learn how to roll with the punches. Please encourage them to embrace change and view challenges as opportunities for growth. If that life lesson seems to be hard to understand, remind them that at least they’re not the ones who accidentally put salt in the sugar bowl.

Finally, don’t forget to lead by example. Show your children what it means to be confident and resilient by facing your challenges with grace and humor. Demonstrate that it’s okay to make mistakes and never too late to try again.

Raising confident and resilient kids is filled with ups and downs, laughter and tears. But with a bit of humor and a lot of love, we can help our children become the strong, self-assured individuals we know they can be.

And hey, if all else fails, remind yourself that at least you’re not the one who thought it was an excellent idea to let your kids have a pet tarantula.

-🦩
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Partners In Crime

March 15th, 2024
Partners in crime, a bond so tight,
Together we take on the darkest night.
Side by side, through thick and thin, in each other’s presence, we will always win.

No challenge is too great, and no hurdle is too high, with you by my side, I can reach for the sky.
Our laughs, our secrets, our dreams shared true, partners in crime, me and you.

Through ups and downs, we never will part, united in spirit and as one in heart. Together we will conquer, together we will soar,
partners in crime forevermore.

-🦩
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PTSD’s Effects On Marriage

March 13th, 2024
Marriage is often described as a partnership filled with love, support, and understanding. However, for individuals who are healing from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), being married can present unique challenges, inevitable setbacks, and growth opportunities.

Ultimately, marriage can be both a source of strength and a trigger for those struggling with PTSD.

As PTSD warriors know, living with PTSD is a daily battle, as individuals may experience flashbacks, nightmares, anxiety, and difficulty regulating their emotions due to the stress brought on by daily situations from being in a relationship. These symptoms can have a profound impact and, at times, disastrous effects on each party in their relationship. Due to this, they need to communicate openly with their partner about their struggles and needs. It is equally essential for partners to be open-minded and understand those needs and struggles.

One of the critical aspects of being married while healing from PTSD is the importance of establishing a safe and supportive environment within the relationship. Healing involves setting proper and healthy boundaries with your partner, creating a sense of predictability in life and the marriage, and providing each other with much-needed stability.

Trust plays an important role and will require continued individual commitment and work as a couple.

Each partner needs to be patient, understanding, and empathetic towards each other’s needs. Partners must be willing to make constant personal growth in helping each other develop coping strategies for managing a partner’s triggers.

Couples therapy can be an invaluable resource and the place to start for those who are married while healing from PTSD. A trained therapist can help couples navigate the challenges of living with PTSD, improve communication, and develop strategies for supporting each other through the healing process. Therapy can also provide a safe space for couples to explore their feelings, fears, and hopes for the future.

It is important for both partners to practice self-care while navigating the complexities of being married while healing from PTSD. This will take time and involve engaging in activities that promote relaxation to reduce stress, such as exercise, meditation, or mindfulness practices.

It is also crucial for both partners to prioritize their mental and emotional well-being, seeking support from mental health professionals when needed.

Being married while healing from PTSD can be a transformative experience for both partners. It can deepen their connection, strengthen their resilience, and foster greater empathy and understanding towards each other.

By working together, communicating openly, and seeking support when needed, couples can navigate the challenges of living with PTSD and build a stronger, more resilient relationship if both partners are genuinely committed to the process of healing.

-🦩
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Kindle Your Own Fire

March 11th, 2024
In the depths of your being, a flame burns bright, a passion is ignited, be it a guiding light.
Seek deep within, let your spirit inquire, and discover the fuel that sets your soul on fire.

Is it the thrill of adventure, the call of the wild? The need to create, like a curious child?
Or perhaps it’s the desire to serve and inspire, uplift others, and make their hearts aspire.

Whatever it may be, let it lead the way, for when you follow your passion, you’ll never stray.
Embrace the heat, let it lift you higher, and dance in the glow of your soul’s sacred fire.

So listen to your heart, let it be your guide, in the pursuit of your dreams, let nothing hide.
For when you find what sets your soul on fire, you’ll burn bright with purpose, reaching higher and higher.

-🦩
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Understanding Your Triggers

March 9th, 2024
Identifying and understanding triggers is an essential aspect of self-awareness and emotional intelligence. Triggers are those specific situations, events, or people that evoke intense emotional or physical reactions within us.

These reactions can range from feelings of anger, sadness, fear, or even physical symptoms like sweating or trembling. Recognizing and understanding our triggers is crucial to managing emotions and navigating challenging situations effectively.

One of the first steps in identifying triggers is to pay attention to our emotional responses in different situations. When we feel a sudden surge of emotion or a strong physical reaction, we must pause and examine what might have triggered that response. It could be a particular comment, a certain tone of voice, or even a specific place that brings up memories or unresolved issues. By being mindful of our reactions, we can pinpoint our triggers and understand why they affect us profoundly.

Understanding our triggers involves delving deeper into the underlying causes of our emotional responses. Triggers are often linked to past experiences, trauma, or deeply held beliefs that shape our perceptions and reactions. For example, someone who experienced rejection in childhood may be triggered by feelings of abandonment in their adult relationships. By exploring the root causes of our triggers, we can unravel the patterns that drive our emotional reactions and gain greater self-awareness.

Once we have identified and understood our triggers, the next step is learning how to manage them effectively. This may involve developing coping strategies, setting boundaries, or seeking support from others. For example, someone who is triggered by conflict may practice deep breathing exercises or assertive communication techniques to calm themselves down and healthily express their feelings. By taking proactive steps to manage our triggers, we can prevent them from overpowering us and maintain control over our emotions.

Identifying and understanding one’s triggers is vital to emotional self-care and personal growth. By being attuned to our emotional responses, exploring the root causes of our triggers, and developing effective coping mechanisms, we can navigate life’s challenges with resilience and grace. Remember, triggering is okay – a natural response to past wounds and experiences. Acknowledging and addressing our triggers can cultivate a more profound compassion and empathy towards ourselves and others.

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Strong and Bold

March 8th, 2024
Photo Credit: LHJ

In a world where chaos reigns and fears tend to collide, there are those with nerves of stone, calm and wide.
They stand like mountains amidst life’s stormy seas, unwavering, unphased, steadfast, and anchored by their inner peace.

When troubles come knocking at their door, they welcome them in, not shaken to the core.
With steady resolve and unwavering might, they face each challenge, ready to fight.

Like the granite cliffs weathered by time, their strength is tested, yet they never chime.
Through life’s trials and tribulations, they remain steady, their hearts are like stone, and their spirits are always ready.

So let us learn from these souls so brave, embrace our fears and never be enslaved.
With nerves of stone and hearts of gold, we too can weather any storms, quiet and bold.

-🦩
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Breaking Free

March 7th, 2024
Photo Credit: Pinterest

I locked my heart away in a cage of stone, where loneliness reigns and love is unknown.
I hide my pain behind walls of fear,
afraid to let you come too close my dear.

I’ve built these barriers brick by brick, shielding my heart from becoming lovesick.
But deep down inside, I long to be free, to open up and allow you to see the real me.

Yet past scars whisper caution in my ear, reminding me of the hurt I held dear.
So I padlock the gates and throw away the key, protecting myself from vulnerability.

But in the depths of my soul, a flicker of hope yearns to break free from this self-imposed rope.
To tear down the walls and embrace the unknown, to unlock my heart and let love be shown.

So take a deep breath and step into the light, trust in the magic of a love that feels right.
With courage as our guide and fate as our ally, let’s unlock this heart and let love fly.

-🦩
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Navigating Your Divorce With Grace

March 6th, 2024
Divorce.

The dreaded “D” word that no one ever wants to hear, let alone go through. It’s like a punch to the gut, a kick in the teeth, a slap in the face all rolled into one. But fear not, my dear reader, for I am here to guide you through the murky waters of divorce and help you come out stronger, wiser, and ready to take on the world.

First, let’s address the elephant in the room – the pain. Oh, the pain of divorce. It’s like a never-ending rollercoaster of emotions – anger, sadness, guilt, regret, you name it. But here’s the thing, my friend, it’s okay to feel all these things.

It’s necessary.

So let it all out.

Cry, scream, punch a pillow – do whatever you need to release that pent-up emotion. Trust me, it will do wonders for your mental health.

Next, let’s delve into the topic of healing. Healing – the light at the end of the tunnel, the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow… you get the idea.

Healing from a divorce is no easy feat, but it is possible. And what exactly is the key to healing?

Self-care.

Yes, that’s right, taking care of yourself is crucial during this time. Eat well.

Exercise.

Get plenty of sleep.

Do things that make you happy – Basically, treat yourself like the precious gem that you are.

healing isn’t just about physical self-care. It’s also about emotional and mental self-care.

Healing also means surrounding yourself with positive individuals who uplift you, seeking therapy if necessary, and practicing self-love and forgiveness. Remember, your divorce does not define you. You are a robust and resilient individual capable of overcoming anything life throws your way.

And last but certainly not least, let’s talk about moving on. Yes, my dear reader, it is possible to move on from a divorce and find happiness again. But it starts with letting go of the past and embracing the present.

True healing means forgiving your ex-spouse (and yourself), letting go of any resentment or bitterness, and building a bright and beautiful future for yourself.

So there you have it.

Divorce may be a painful and tumultuous experience. But it is also an opportunity for growth, self-discovery, and healing. So hold your head high, put on your best smile, and know you are a warrior who can conquer anything life throws your way.

Cheers to healing, my friend. You’ve got this.

-🦩
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